Sunday 27 September 2015

The quietest people have the loudest minds

The quietest people have the loudest minds
Are you one of those quiet people that sit on one side and try to get involved? Or do you feel intimidated by louder people? Bullies or even just loud people in general. Sometimes it makes you feel like going into a corner or backing down, even really insecure.
Well to be honest maybe there is a reason why people are loud, they have been through things in life but ever one shows it in different ways. Some loud people that look confident hide these problems. However some become bullies and feel they need to take their anger out on someone and they mainly aim for the quiet people. Bullies show weakness and insecurity as they have no right picking on anyone. They should understand quiet people are strong not weak! If they can put up with their bullies and their personal problems without showing it or expressing it they are truly strong on the inside. You must have heard the quote “the quietest people have the loudest minds” well I am quite a quiet person and I don’t talk too much because when I do I end up talking too much because I have things going on in my mind I always think so im scared id let out too much information to people I hardly know so I remain quiet at times. Sometimes quiet people prefer to observe people before meeting them or observe the environment and how people behave and they decide whether they can trust them or not that maybe an advantage of being quiet sometimes.
When I was a child I went through a lot of things but I never used to show my feelings to my family as we had a lot of family problems I just sat there and watched everyone argue. Yes it did used to hurt me but I used to see different faced of my family everyday now that I have grown up I know how each of my family members are like and how I should act around them. I tried raising my confidence once and I tried making friends I came out of my comfort zone and made friends with a couple of girls as I was a tomboy. They made me feel like I could trust them, they said “you can talk to us about anything, were like your sister” and I just opened up to them told them about my life. I fell out with one of the girls after a few days as she was making fun of me and judged me with another girl and she told the teacher I was too open and I’m emotional and stuff like that. I got into trouble as the blame came on me since then it knocked down my confidence as they were loud girls and I was quiet going through things in life plus I was the youngest out of them. After  a month or two I accepted the fact people will judge me but I have to keep myself to myself so I tried making new friends and I hid my emotions and I threw on this fake act that I was this confident girl and people started to like me better as I didn’t show my emotional side. But every month I will have a day where I broke down I just cried and let everything out and the friends I had were there for me.
So in life it’s good to be quiet but it’s also good to be loud you should be a mix of both but never a bully. Hiding your emotions is the strongest thing anyone can do and to accept the fact you have to ignore these emotions is even strong. You should just try and be confident make some new friends even if it’s a fake act but you will realise after a month or two who your real friends are and they are the friends you can have heart to heart conversations with. You don’t have to do this alone you just have to step out of your comfort zone sometimes it sounds easy but trust me I know it is hard it too me some time as well if you need help or tips just message me on my social media accounts. I hope I helped you and if you felt I have offended you I am strongly sorry and my aim is to motive people in life.
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